Comments on: 10 Tips for Parenting through Self Injury http://merewisdom.org/2009/04/10-tips-for-parenting-through-self-injury/ An expert at making mistakes occasionally learns from them. Thu, 05 Aug 2010 18:44:30 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: S.Consciousness http://merewisdom.org/2009/04/10-tips-for-parenting-through-self-injury/comment-page-1/#comment-1112 S.Consciousness Wed, 26 May 2010 21:43:19 +0000 http://merewisdom.org/?p=338#comment-1112 I recently discovered my daughter's cutting... I so thought with my attentive parenting, her rich and happy earlier childhood, and my professional background and education (social work/mental health), she'd be immune to something like this. She'll be 14 in July... I see now that I've been critical and I have invalidated her experience since she began struggling with adolescence and all the discomfort that goes along with that metamorphosis... I began parenting from fear, exactly what I advised the parents I worked with professionally NOT to do... the more her grades slid (she's extremely gifted), the more frantic I became, fearing her imminent and permanent failure... I knew in my head I was demonstrating self-fulfilling prophecy, but I was powerless to stop myself advocating for her with teachers, begging her to do what she is most certainly capable of doing... now she feels inadequate, judged, ineffective... my heart breaks now every time I look at her. I feel so guilty... I know we'll get through this, but I never imagined it would be so agonizing... I recently discovered my daughter's cutting… I so thought with my attentive parenting, her rich and happy earlier childhood, and my professional background and education (social work/mental health), she'd be immune to something like this.

She'll be 14 in July… I see now that I've been critical and I have invalidated her experience since she began struggling with adolescence and all the discomfort that goes along with that metamorphosis… I began parenting from fear, exactly what I advised the parents I worked with professionally NOT to do… the more her grades slid (she's extremely gifted), the more frantic I became, fearing her imminent and permanent failure… I knew in my head I was demonstrating self-fulfilling prophecy, but I was powerless to stop myself advocating for her with teachers, begging her to do what she is most certainly capable of doing… now she feels inadequate, judged, ineffective…

my heart breaks now every time I look at her. I feel so guilty…

I know we'll get through this, but I never imagined it would be so agonizing…

]]> By: Lori http://merewisdom.org/2009/04/10-tips-for-parenting-through-self-injury/comment-page-1/#comment-1001 Lori Thu, 23 Apr 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://merewisdom.org/?p=338#comment-1001 James, again I am in awe of your courage, strength and love. Whenever I need to feel in the presence of a hero, I go to your blog. Thank you. James, again I am in awe of your courage, strength and love. Whenever I need to feel in the presence of a hero, I go to your blog. Thank you.

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